Rest: The Radical Discipline of Being

If you’ve spent years performing for love, rest will not come easily. It may not even feel safe.

It might sound strange to say that resting can feel threatening, but for those of us shaped by religious hustle, rest feels like letting go of control. And for many, control has been how we’ve stayed afloat.

We say yes when we want to say no. We fill our calendars with activity. We join the ministry team. We lead the Bible study. We keep showing up, not necessarily because we are full of joy or feel spiritually vibrant—but because the alternative feels too vulnerable.

Stillness can be disorienting when you’ve always been on the move.

And yet the invitation of Jesus remains unchanged:

“Abide in Me.”

Not “earn your place with Me.”
Not “hustle to prove you love Me.”
Just… “Be with Me.”

This kind of abiding is not passive. It’s not lazy. It’s radical. Because to abide means to trust love. It means to unclench your fists. To stop performing. To let God see the real you.

And for many of us, that kind of rest feels like stepping into a foreign land. We were raised to believe that movement meant maturity. That busyness was blessed. That rest was a reward for finishing everything else.

But in the kingdom of God, rest is not a reward. It’s a rhythm.

It’s the rhythm of Eden. It’s the rhythm of Jesus. It’s the rhythm of a soul learning to live loved.

Why Rest Feels So Foreign

If your story includes religious pressure, high expectations, or even emotional neglect disguised as spirituality, then rest might trigger something in you.

Maybe you were praised when you were productive but ignored when you were simply present.
Maybe you were affirmed for doing but never for just being.
Maybe you learned to earn belonging rather than receive it.

No wonder rest feels unnatural. It confronts the internal script that says you have to be useful to be valuable.

But Jesus rewrites that story.

His presence does not require your perfection. His love does not need your performance. His delight in you is not dependent on how well you’ve executed your quiet time or your service schedule.

In fact, rest may be the most faith-filled act of resistance against a world—and a religious culture—that taught you to hustle for worth.

When Rest Is a Form of Obedience

We often associate obedience with activity. Doing the thing. Taking the step. Saying yes.
But what if obedience, in this season, looks like stopping?
What if the bravest thing you can do is to not do?

There is a kind of obedience that doesn’t show up in outcomes but in surrender. And here’s the truth that can be hard to swallow when you're wired for performance: If God isn’t giving you the grace for it, doing it anyway may not be faithful—it might be disobedience.

We call it commitment. Responsibility. Stewardship. But sometimes, we’re clinging to things He never asked us to carry. We’re saying yes to assignments He never assigned. And deep down, we know it. Because the grace is gone, and what used to feel like joy now feels like a slow burn toward burnout.

When God calls you to rest, saying yes is not lazy. It’s not optional. It’s radical obedience.

Obedience that says, “I trust You more than I trust my own output.”

Obedience that says, “I will not sacrifice my soul to keep up appearances.”

Obedience that says, “I will honor the season You’ve given me, not the one I think I should be in.”

Radical Rest Is Not Just a Nap

This kind of rest is not about taking the occasional day off while your soul stays in overdrive. It’s about relearning how to be. Not needing to escape your life, but to build a life that is your escape. Relearning what it means to be loved without the filter of usefulness.

It’s radical being instead of radical doing.
It’s radical healing instead of radical striving.
It’s radical trust instead of radical performance.

It is not weak. It is not indulgent. It is deeply formational. Because when we rest, we allow God to be the One who holds everything together. And that’s the whole point—we were never meant to be our own source.

Small, Scalable Acts of Freedom

You don’t have to take a sabbatical or move to the mountains to say yes to this kind of rest. It begins in the small moments. The brave pauses. The hidden yeses that slowly reshape your inner world.

If the idea of resting feels abstract or unrealistic, here are a few practical and gentle ways to begin. These don’t require major life overhauls. They’re small acts of freedom that signal to your nervous system and your spirit: I don’t have to perform to be okay.

Here are some gentle, doable ways to begin:

1. Listen to your limits

Your limitations aren’t liabilities. They are invitations to trust. When your body says “enough,” listen. If you keep pushing past where the grace ends, you may be stepping out of alignment with what God is actually asking of you.

2. Schedule stillness

Start with ten minutes. No agenda. Just sit. Breathe. Let your soul exhale. Let God meet you in the quiet. It’s not about what you accomplish in those minutes—it’s about re-teaching your heart that being with Him is enough. You don’t have to pray the right words or think holy thoughts. Just sit. Let God meet you in the silence.

3. Ask what’s mine—and what’s not

Many of us carry loads that aren’t ours. We say yes to needs, roles, and expectations because it feels holy. But it’s only holy if it’s His. Ask yourself: “Did God call me to this, or did guilt?” If grace isn’t there, it might not be your assignment.

4. Walk without purpose

Take a walk without counting steps, multitasking, or praying for ten people. Just walk. Let your senses wake up. Let your mind slow down. Let joy come find you. Just walk. Let your heart unwind. Let your mind wander. Let beauty surprise you again.

5. Sleep without shame

Sleep is not selfish. It is sacred. If Jesus took naps in a storm, you can take one on a Saturday. And if you’re exhausted, it’s not a character flaw—it’s a signal that your body and soul need tending. Let yourself sleep in on your day off. Nap without guilt. God designed your body with limits. Honoring those limits is not weakness. It’s wisdom.

6. Say no so you can say yes

Maybe that means turning down a good ministry opportunity so you can tend to your inner world. Rest often begins with saying yes to things no one sees: counseling, journaling, creating, naps, or just emotional space to breathe. When God says rest, and you keep saying yes to everything else, you’re not being spiritually mature—you’re avoiding obedience. Saying no is not always rejection. Sometimes it’s reverence. Reverence for the season God has placed you in. Reverence for your own soul.

7. Journal the truth—not the performance

Instead of writing what you think a good Christian should feel, write what’s real. If you’re numb, name it. If you’re mad, confess it. If you’re tired, admit it. God can only heal what you’re willing to reveal. Write the messy middle. The tension. The ache. Let the truth of your heart come to the surface so it can be held in the love of God.

8. Unplug your worth from your work or all the things you do for others

When the house is messy, when the inbox is full, when the dishes pile up—practice blessing yourself anyway. You are not what you produce

9. Pray without trying to sound holy

Stop performing even in your prayer life. Tell God what you really feel. If you're numb, say so. If you're angry, name it. If you're empty, bring that. Honesty is the soil of intimacy.

When Rest Becomes Your New Rhythm

Rest isn’t just recovery. It’s re-formation. It’s the space where God reintroduces you to yourself and reminds you who He is—not based on your performance, but on His presence.

Rest teaches you that your worth is not earned. It is received. That your value doesn’t increase with your productivity. That your place in the heart of God was never something you had to fight for.

When you stop performing long enough to actually be, you may discover something holy happening inside you.

Shame loses its grip.
Fear starts to quiet.
And for the first time in a long time, your soul remembers what peace feels like.

So if God is asking you to rest, let it be your yes. Let it be your obedience. Let it be your healing. Because resting when the world expects performance is nothing short of a revolution.

Rest Rebuilds Relationship

Here’s the gift of rest: it reintroduces your soul to unconditional love. It reminds you that you are not God. You are not infinite. You are not tireless. And you were never meant to be. You were created to be in rhythm with Him. To work and to rest. To give and to receive. To pour out and be poured into.

The first thing God called holy in Scripture was not a place or a person. It was a day of rest.

Before you had a job, a calling, or a title, you had a place in the heart of God. And He still wants that place to be where you live from—not what you hustle to earn.

So when rest feels foreign, awkward, or unsafe, be gentle with yourself. You’re not doing it wrong. You’re just doing something new. And every time you choose rest, you’re choosing to believe that love holds you even when your hands are empty.

That is the radical discipline of being. And it just might change everything.

So for you and your healing journey, 

Peace, love and joy, 

Rebecca Jo